Beating yourself up?

According to Don Miguel Ruiz, in his book "The Four Agreements", we are the only species that can make a mistake and punish ourselves repeatedly over it, relentlessly condemning ourselves for errant words and actions even committed in the l...ong ago past.

We all have a "judge" within us who has taken it upon himself to remind us of how ugly we are, how unlovable we can be, how inappropriate we act, how we often seem to say the wrong things at the wrong times and do and say things we know we shouldn't. The judge eclipses the light within us, tells us that these behaviors are evidence we are not worthy of happiness, and KEEPS us believing we are more negative than not, thus

blocking our inward motivation for growth and self improvement. But THAT does not have to be true!!! It is only true if we believe it to be true!

I have a dear friend who attended a Jack Canfield (Co-founder of the "Chicken Soup For The Soul" series) seminar and related how Jack often recommends the mirror approach to learning to love oneself. Basically, it is suggested that very often, throughout the day, that we look deeply into ourselves in the mirror, making intense eye contact with our image while saying to that image how much we appreciate it. Telling that person in the mirror how we love the kind of Human Being they are trying to be and how good and kind they are capable of being and how lovable their thoughts are to witness, since we are an intimate observer to those thoughts. Keep doing this in spite of previous mistakes in your life until you begin to believe it. It works!!!
Be transformed and be grateful!
 Thanks Tom Nadeau, need this Now! Just found out someone overheard long personal conversation on my cell phone that I did not want to be overheard, and have no idea how it happened for almost 40 minutes. Need to quit beating myself up NOW! and lose my anger about cell phones, which I already have an ambivalent feeling about...ron alexander

The Wright brothers flew right through the smoke screen of impossibility.

Charles Kettering