Tuesday, September 30, 2008

Love from Children's mouths - deeper and broader than you might think!

Love (UNCLASSIFIED) - "You know that your name is safe in their mouth."
What Love means to a 4-8 year old . . .
A group of professional people posed this question to a groupof 4 to 8 year-olds, 'What does love mean?'
The answers they got were broader and deeper than anyone could have imagined..

**************************** 'When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails anymore.So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That's love.'
Rebecca- age 8

____________________________ 'When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You just know that your name is safe in their mouth.' Billy - age 4

____________________________'Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other.' Karl - age 5
____________________________ 'Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs.' Chrissy - age 6
____________________________ 'Love is what makes you smile when you're tired.'Terri - age 4
____________________________'Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK.' Danny - age 7
____________________________ 'Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more.My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss' Emily - age 8
____________________________ 'Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen.' Bobby - age 7 (Wow!)____________________________'If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate,' Nikka - age 6 (we need a few million more Nikka's on this planet)
____________________________ 'Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday.' Noelle - age 7
____________________________ 'Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well.' Tommy - age 6
____________________________ 'My mommy loves me more than anybody. You don't see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night.' Clare - age 6
____________________________ 'Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken.' Elaine-age 5
____________________________ 'Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford.' Chris - age 7
____________________________ 'Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day.' Mary Ann - age 4
____________________________'I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones.' Lauren - age 4
____________________________ 'When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you.' (what an image) Karen - age 7
____________________________ 'Love is when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn't think it's gross.' Mark - age 6
____________________________'You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget.' Jessica - age 8
____________________________And the final one The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife.
Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman's yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there. When his Mother asked what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy said,'Nothing, I just helped him cry'

Sunday, September 28, 2008


yes Jah rastafari ever livin ever lovin ever sure
you people make me feel IRIE
Bob Marley's music is so simple as simple as love
love has no eyes and makes no distinctions
love is the one thing which we can give and give and give and it will only become more
give love freely it is not a thing of barter nor does it imply that the recipient must give in return
love grows in the giving give freely and without strings just as Bob Marley gave his words and music for all the world to enjoy
dance enjoy rejoice and be happy
we all have but the single moment in time and none can tell which was the first nor which shall be their last
give love in this moment and worry not about the next
Amir Hedayat-Vaziri

Sabrina, Happy Birthday, I wish someone could sing you Marley's "One Love" for your bithday. Do you have a video of him playing that One-der-full song. If not could you share the lyrics with us?"
Love is all we came here for.
No one could offer you more.
Do you know what I mean?
Have your eyes really seen?
Love is the open-ended door.
Nobody could offer you more.
Do you know what I mean?
Love is all we came here for.
Do you know what I mean?
Have your eyes really seen?"
Elton John from his Tumbleweed Album about thirty years ago.

Sabrina, "I know your eyes have seen," Happy Happy Birthday. One Love, Ron

AMIR ... RON .. my brothers .. wow am I happy about earning some more years of wisdom - at 39 i now that there is so much more to learn and pass on .. praise Jah for the blessing of life ..... i have this little blog thing going .. havent told anyone about it really its a way keep my balance .. but there is a video and lyrics for One Love on there ... I played Bob the entire morning and switched to Burnin' Spear in the evening - we intended to go to the reggae club but decided to stay home and enjoy the 'Reggae Ride' on the radio (every Sat. night) ... love love love Amir thats all its about nothing more - you are so right ... Ron thank God I have seen - now comes the responsibility of sight ... i pray for strength for us ALL ... Blessings ALLhttp://caribbeanpeoples.wordpress.com/bob-marley-videos/bob-marley-one-love-original-video-england/
Sabrina Titley

Baha'i Writings -- Be As One Spirit from Ron's friend, Sally

Let your hearts reflect the glories of the Sun of Truth in their many colors to gladden the eye of the divine Cultivator Who has nourished them.
Day by day become more closely attracted in order that the love ofGod may illumine all those with whom you come in contact. Be as one spirit, one soul, leaves of one tree, flowers of one garden, waves of one ocean

Wednesday, September 24, 2008

The Immense Grief Caused by an Illusion

Ron Alexander

The illusion is that we are separated from God's Love.

From that false thinking, there is immense grief.

All other losses add to this grief.

The stages of grief Elizabeth Kubler-Ross identified are: (DABDA -1,2, 3, 4, 5)

D !. Denial (this isn't happening to me! Or just blanking it out of your mind)

A 2. Anger (surprising, confusing emotional outbursts causing guilt)

B 3, Bargaining (I promise I'll be a better person if... Why did that happen to me? Why did she leave me? Why now? victimy questioning on and on ad nauseum)

D 4. Depression (I don't care anymore - loss of appetite, wonder, suicidal and/or homicidal ideation - if last two go to clinic or hospital to see professional about need of medication)

A 5. Acceptance (I accept with peace what has happened and will happen)

Most grief counselors believe that the stages are cyclical, with no script or real pattern, except that one can heal by experiencing "acceptance" more and more clearly and definitely, until finally the nightmare circle is almost extinguished.

The most tricky "stage" that keeps reappearing is the "Bargaining" because of all the confusion it causes in our thinking. A strong victim bargaining confusion can actually lead to a "thinking disorder", that may require medication, however this therapist prescribes meditation first. From my experience personally and as a grief counselor, changing our thinking or the glimpses a still mind experiences during meditation, returns us to the peace of acceptance that we all want as our end point. Then some unexpected anger or depression may creep back in, however if one looks closely, there is probably a "why me" victim thought behind the anger or depression.

At the attainment of pure peace of acceptance, joy becomes the dominating emotion. We are One with God. Since God is Love, we are One with Love. Since God is Peace, we are One with Peace. Since God is Joy, we are One with Joy.

And then the ugly nightmarish cycle may come back, however, with the realization of Oneness, it is replaced much quicker this time with Peace, Joy and Love! All it may take is a change of thought or a quick meditation.

Your grief for what you've lost lifts a mirror
up to where you are bravely working.
Expecting the worst, you look, and instead
here's the joyful face you've been wanting to see.
Your hand opens and closes and opens and closes.
If it were always a fist or always stretched open,
you would be paralyzed.
Your deepest presence is in very small contracting and expanding,
the two as beautifully coordinated as birdwings. -Rumi

Tuesday, September 23, 2008

A Reason Not to Judge & "Let the Beauty be what we do."

Judgement, Time and an Angel

I tear down the walls of opinion
That separates anybody from me.
I set them free
From the projections of myself.
So I may see them as they are.
I will not measure them with the
Yardsticks of yesterday.
For perhaps in the night
An angel of light
Revealed to them who they are
And today they may be that.

"Time" (my title) is a poem that I found written by "anon." on a back of a bathroom door in California in the '80's.

Here is one I wish I had written: The Ground

Today, like every other day,
We wake up empty and scared.
Take down the dulcimer.
Let the beauty we love be what we do.
There are hundreds of ways to kneel
And kiss the Ground. Rumi (translated by Bly)

Tuesday, September 16, 2008

Whatever is the question? The answer is

"Put all your faith in
the love of God within you:
eternal, changeless, and forever unfailing.
This is the answer to whatever
confronts you today." W, 79 (ACIM)

If we love one another,
God dwelleth in us, &
His love is perfected in us. John 4:12

Whatever is the question, love is the answer.
Whatever is the problem, love is the answer.
Whatever is the illness, love is the answer.
Whatever is the pain, love is the answer.
Whatever the fear, love is the answer.
Love is always the answer because
Love is all there is. Jerry Jampolsky & Diane Cirincione (LOVE IS THE ANSWER - CREATING POSITIVE RELATIONSHIPS)

Monday, September 15, 2008

Synopsis of New Memoir

Sailing My Father Home
The Most Difficult Oneness
Ron Alexander

Nov. 1982 to Dec. 1983 was Ron’s last year as a professional sailing captain/teacher in the Bahamas, the Carolina coasts and New England. The year started with a tragic accident. His Father was brain-injured in a car accident/stroke. Ron faced the grief of his Father’s injury, losses of first mate/lovers, all the while sailing with students in his well-named vessel Kayoss. As a youth, Ron promised himself, he would not live the same stressful driven life of his Father, yet painfully he started seeing his Father’s shadow in himself.
After completing courses in Yoga and holistic health practice, Ron sailed home to South Carolina and took his 62 year old Father out of a rest home against his Mother’s will. A decision that caused more divisiveness between his Mother and Ron. While practicing alternative healing modalities with his Father, he learned much about himself, and how to love and accept his parents with all their pain and problems.
The author writes from his own ship log/journals written day by day all year, along with reflections from his memory.

Tuesday, September 9, 2008

Faith = Joyous Expectations

Thy faith has served thee; go in peace. Luke 7:58
"Today I have faith that my word shall not return unto me void. Today I surrender myself completely to this faith, for I know that there is a creative Spirit that gives substance to this faith
and will provide the evidence of this substance in actual fact. Therefore, I expect to meet my good, and I rejoice in anticipation of this good. I know that my faith operates through an immutable Law and that there is no possibility of Its failing."
"Most everyone believes that all things are possible to the person who has faith, but everyone has not taken the time to analyze exactly what faith is. Faith is a definite mental attitude. It is an attitude of the conscious mind that is no longer denied by our unconscious reactions to life."
I (Ron) was brought up to "expect the worst, and you won't be disappointed." As I became an adult, I was taught "to fake it until I make it."
Both of those attitudes are contradictions to faith. Faith is perfect when we say "I believe." and when there is nothing in us that denies that simple faith. This is what the Bible means when it says we must "know in the heart." The heart symbolizes the innermost center of our being, When the intellect is no longer contradicted by our emotional reactions, by unconscious doubts and fears, the words of our mouth will immediately bear fruit.
Count it all joy, my children, whenever you face trials of all kinds,
because you know that the testing of your faith develops
perseverance. James 1:2,3
Today I expect to meet my good, and I rejoice in the anticipation of that good.
Much of above was transcribed from a Daily "Word" (Sept. 9) by Ernest Holmes titled The Immutable Law of God Sustains My Positive Acceptance of Perfect Faith.

Sunday, September 7, 2008


has nothing
to do with
somebody else.
It is your
state of being.
Love is not
a relationship.
A relationship
is possible
but love is not
confined to it,
it is beyond it,
it is more than that -
Man becomes mature
the moment
he starts loving
rather than needing.
He starts overflowing,
he starts sharing
he starts giving-
And when
two mature persons
are in love,
one of the greatest paradoxes
of life happens,
one of the most
beautiful phenomena..
they are together,
and yet
tremendously alone:
they are almost one.
But their oneness
does not destroy
their individuality. Rajneesh