Ho'Oponopono - taking responsibility for all

Karen of Gratitude Power left me this message, when I asked her if I could use Ho'Oponopono on someone who I thought betrayed me?
Hi Ron,
With Ho'Oponopono you take responsibility for the situation whether you felt you caused it or not. Dr. Hew Len explained in his book that total responsibility for life means everything in your life--simply because it is in your life..
If you take responsibility for your life, everything you see, hear, taste, touch or in anyway experience, is your responsibility because it's your life. ( I had to sit with that for awhile, but eventually it made sense)

It's always about the "Self"--when you cleanse the self with I'm sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you--it's not about the other person at all--i'ts between you and the divine. When Dr. Hew Len cured a hospital of patients, he never met any of them--but the case came into his life experience and he took responsibility for the experience by cleansing himself with Ho' Oponopono.

All of your experiences live within you--when you shift within, everything automatically shifts around you. One thing that I've tried in relationships is to just think of the person and say to yourself "I love you" over and over again. I find that softens the tension and energy around the situation. In the meantime Ho'Oponpono is always--I'm sorry, Please forgive me, Thank you, I love you--- it's about you---"peace begins with me"
Love and Gratitude
Karen
Gratitude Power

What about loving relationships?

Last year, I was invited to a men's group comprised of men from a local spiritual community. I was dismayed that the subject was all about finding the right woman for a wife. I was told later that one reason is that the Guru of this group demands celibacy outside marriage. However, I have never seen so many needy grieving men. I told them that if I came back, I would be glad to lead them in exploring their needs and grief. I also told them to be careful what they were wishing for after getting out of a very unconscious marriage myself. I went ahead this year and formed my own men's group with a group of diverse men who are much more conscious.

A person who feels whole within themselves makes a better partner. I am not interested in a partner unless she "knows herSelf really well.

Reply by Lee
Candice said: I do agree with this, even if it's using their own children to "look good". This is exactly why my "philosophy" is if I don't know: Who I am, what I need and how to get that, I am literally dangerous because without meaning to, I will hurt myself and those around me.


For me it is somewhere in this process of getting to know ourself that the beauty of humanity lies. The innate thirst for peace and the consequential desire to know ourself is beautiful in and of itself. Additionally, as we unintentionally hurt ourself and those around us due to our very human lack of knowledge the flipside is an almost innate understanding of that condition from which things such as forgiveness, empathy, and understanding come from. As I begin to understand (and I am just beginning) my shortcomings I am dumbfounded by the ability of those that love me to have forgiven me so far in my life.

So, as to the four questions, the only answers I have ever been able to come up with are: I am me, I am energy (maybe), I am learning, and I may or may not have an actual purpose. However, as I learn and exist as energy in the form of me, I enjoy being kind, I like being treated kindly, and I like to find ways to use love to facilitate this kindness. This is how I attempt to quench this innate thirst for peace, and the most important thing to know about who and what I am is that I am flawed, and I am going to make mistakes. Thankfully so is everyone else, so I kind of fit in.

Think Only Love - See Only Love - Be Only Love

I would like to share that I am being reminded at this time that we don’t have to beware or be wary, there is nothing to be afraid of... There is nothing that exists which is outside ourselves.x..

Time does not exist… We are here in this new space now, creating it moment by moment & I am in true celebration of it.x..

It is time to be ‘not afraid’ & it’s time to trust, it’s time to love & remember, we are loved & It’s our birth-right!!

We are all one & we are connected to everything, no spaces, lines or gaps...
The universe is one loving being, one spirit, moving through one consciousness.x..

We create through thoughts, feelings, wishes, dreams...
Lack, need, can’t do, Have to heal will just end.
Negativity will be just a memory.x..

Polarity is fading away, in order for us to exist.x..

We are here to appreciate the difference between where our attention is and what our intention is.x..
The heart always knows & will never create anything that it detrimental to anything else, because the heart knows that We Are One.x..

When we judge, we judge ourselves & when we are in our brain, judgment in the world of illusion is futile... When we are in our heart, we are in a sacred space & intention is everything.x..

In L♥Ve, LiGhT, InSpiRaTiOn & J♥Y!!
Cindy x

ps.x.. I love you, because I love me & that is all there is.x..



Wow, Cindy - just what I needed to hear today, thanks, One Love,

SEE ONLY LOVE

"Look past the seeming errors, mistakes, and misunderstandings, and see only the love within each person (including yourself).





Your resolute focus upon the love that underlies every situation brings about healing in undreamed-of ways.

See yourself, others, and every situation through our hearts. When you focus on love, anything that's unloving falls away. It's like turning on a light to diminish the previous darkness. Call upon the Angels whenever you need help to elevate your vision to a more loving vantage point.

Look past the personalities and egos of others, ans see the Angel within them. We can help you with this if it seems difficult at first. Forgive. Release anger, hurt or judgments to the Angels. Affirm what you desire, instead of what you fear.

Affirm often: "I unconditional accept all things, regardless of how they appear."

See only Love, as we see you, Love your Angels

Golden Chains of Connections

Golden Chains of Connections

WORD FOR THE DAY (gratefulness.org)
Sunday, Aug. 9

Recipients of our appreciation
are apt to express their own
gratitude to others, lengthening
the unending, golden chain of
connections-in-goodness
that stretches across the world.

Mary Ford Grabowsky
The Way of Mary

Current Check - in (Aug. 8. 3009) - "Love Never Faileth"

how's life dear?? I have recently returned from a silent Ten Day silent Vipassana meditation course which has transformed my life. I saw a documentary called "The Dhamma Brothers" (please google it) about teacher going in to the worst Alabama prison with the same course, and it transformed these convicted murderers. And since my nephew has spent time and probably much more now (drunk driving - ran from police - drove into a police car and injured the officer - just last Tues., so he faces serious time hopefully, as he has been a danger to himself and others for a few years now. So I may take this film to South Carolina prisons? Barry was fine under my tough love, but regressed when he inherited most of my Mom's stuff, and left my care, since I lost economic power over him. But that has turned out alright, I have reframed my paucity of inheritance to a Divine Inheritance. I have a bumper sticker that says "The best things in life are not things." and we know "the best things in life are free"

"Love Never Faileth"

WORD FOR THE DAY
Saturday, Aug. 8 (gratefulness.org)

An act of love that fails
is just as much a part
of the divine life as
an act of love that succeeds,
for love is measured by its
own fullness,
not by its reception.

Harold Loukes

Universal Responsibility

WORD FOR THE DAY (gratefulness.org)
Thursday, Aug. 6

Today, more than ever before,
life must be characterized by a
sense of Universal responsibility,
not only nation to nation and human
to human, but also human to other
forms of life.

His Holiness the Dalai Lama

Back from ten day silent Vipassana Retreat

Jeanne has sent you a message on Architects of a New Dawn

Congratulations Ron,

and welcome to the club... tee hee. You are now an old student... and it only took ten days to earn your stripes... ten long days.

Have you heard that each day at a vipassana retreat is ten days long, so a ten day retreat is equivalent to 100 days.

But seriously, I'm happy to hear that you completed what may be the best thing you've ever done. And I'm happy to call you a dhamma brother.

I'm signed up to do a service period in Washington from the 9th to the 19th. I'm looking forward to it.

Metta,("metta" means loving kindness)
Jeanne
Ron said: "...having a hard time sitting over 30 minutes at a time."

Funny... who would have thought that sitting is hard?
On our first course, I glanced over at my husband at the end of an hour and he had so many cushions under him, that they looked like a chair. Now he uses only a small blanket folded over... just enough to slightly raise his lower spine. He swore at the end of that first course that he would never be able to be comfortable sitting... and now he is a marathon sitter.

...patiently and persistently, you are bound to succeed... I love those words.

Reply by Ron Alexander 22 minutes ago Jeanne said:
Ron said: "...having a hard time sitting over 30 minutes at a time."


...patiently and persistently, you are bound to succeed... I love those words.

Hi Jeane, thanks for your reply - my cushions against the backwall ended up looking like a throne, and I especially had a hard time during the one hour group sessions with the teachers looking on. However, I pleased to report that this morning I got up expecting a hard time sitting for one hour in my simple wooden meditation chair (I did add one cushion after all my "assskara" during the course). However, when I finally looked over at watch, I thought it would be between 30 & 45 minutes, and low and behold, it was 1 hour and 15 minutes!

I am trying to be equanimitous, instead of getting too "rah rah" about this. I asked Anand the teacher about "why not getting really excited about things like your team winning?". Expecting a lecture about how "pleasure samskaras were just as hurtful as painful ones in the long run", instead he simply looked at me with his clear eyes and beautiful smile and said:
"Why can't we be joyous every moment?"

Here is another helpful answer to me by Anand: as usual during meditation, besides using a mantra ("calmly and with equanimity" here), I was used to trying to develop my third eye - the sixth chakra. Here it kept getting blocked - felt like a hood over it. Anand told me "where did you learn that?" I told him from Swami Vishnu Devananda during a Sivananda teacher training course on Paradise Island in the Bahamas. Anand replied:
"that is physical, here we work with mind and matter and mind is over matter." As we progressed in the ten day, I realized we developed awareness for whole body and not for special spots like the chakras.
One Love, ron

Love this people! Getting trained to accept reality for what it is, without wavering to and fro. To live in each moment, and try to enjoy it for what it is....What a concept!

Best,
Mike