The Kingdom you want is on the other side of fear

Tao Te Ching ~ Lao Tzu
‎~ May your heart be like a lake...with a calm still surface and great depths of kindness ~
Shauna Fireson: ‎...*smiles*.....absolutel​y beautiful.......in all it's serenity....!! :) !!
Ron Alexander: Yes, thank you Shauna Fireson - completely different than the "Stormy Seas of Relationships" post earlier. However, what is life without high winds creating large waves with excitement and melodrama. A calm anchorage, like above, is my preference now though! Viva La Difference! And both are true at different times - Divine Timing Hopefully!

Tao Te Ching ~ Lao Tzu
‎~ Just remain in the center watching and then forget that you are there ~

Fear not, little flock; for it is your Father's good pleasure to give you the Kingdom. ---Luke 12:32 One of my fav. verses and it goes along with this post perfectly!

A New Earth" ~ Eckhart Tolle
‎~ You do not become good by trying to be good...but by finding the goodness that is already within you and allowing that goodness to emerge ~

Relation-Ships in a Stormy Sea? & Man Caves

Relationship is the most challenging spiritual path available on the planet. No other path brings forth our buried doubts, fears and insecurities for healing so definitely. It takes great courage for us to see the parts of ourselves that we have trouble accepting being mirrored back to us by our partners. Yet, by making peace with the disowned parts of ourselves, we come to know our own wholeness and can then experience authenticity. Paul Ferrini

I think that a big difference between men and women is that women need "face to face" and think healing of a relationship begins with both together.
I think that we need to find that peace within ourselves first and then get together. take care of your needs within first and then as two whole people we can get together. I say again - I want an interdependent relationship between two whole people. Please wait until you feel peaceful within to contact me again.
I recommend more meditation and praying and possibly counseling (as I am getting)?
Lindsay Lock Butler> Truthfully, it depends on the man/ woman. Generally, yes though. A man needs to work in his cave first. A woman likes to talk it out. But there are exceptions
Anatoly Petrenko- Ron in Tibetan Buddhist tradition male represents space and wisdom and female represents awareness and compassion, hence the living expressions of both you mentioned.




Yes, sailors have their man caves & are first cousins to "cavemen" too!

Original "Man Cave"?

Enjoy Being a Marigold

All respectability, all honor is meaningless
if it drives you against your nature.
What can you do if you are not a lotus flower,
but just a marigold?
Enjoy being a marigold.
Chandan

Ida Rose: Beautiful veriety of merigold!!
Ron Alexander" Thanks Ida Rose! I agree about the flower. I wrote in about the "carpenter" because working with wood has been one of the great pleasures of my life.

Ida Rose: If the carpenter was the soul I envision, I would love that carpenter more!!
Gene Yakub: As you know, the marigold is given a sacred place in Hinduism, as well as the lotus.

Angela Martin Diggs: Marigolds are very strong flowers. Deep protected roots. I can see you Ron as a bright one. To me no matter what you do I will always love you.....Your heart shines through all your beautiful colors Mr. Merigold...Hugs"What if I was a carpenter, would you love me anyway?"

Immersed in a Vast Ocean of Thoughts

Guest: How do we manage the thoughts in our mind?

"We invite you to meditate more."

If the only thoughts you had were the thoughts that are (generated locally) in your mind you wouldn't have any trouble managing them at all. But your brain is more like a receiver of thought than it is a generator of thought. This is why you have thoughts that seem to come out of nowhere. Your brain, your heart, your whole body, is a sensitive receiver immersed in a vast ocean of thought. And in this sense you are more like a sieve than you are like a shell.

So here you are immersed in a vibrational world that was preceded by thought, is surrounded by thought, and you are taking in as much of it as you can. But they didn't tell you when you were born that you would be taking in so many more thoughts then most of the people around you. Those who raised you were trained to exclude or ignore much of what they saw or heard or felt with their senses, and even more so to ignore or discount the nonphysical, vibrational aspects that surrounded them. So in order to fit in you began to manage—restrict—your thoughts.

And we risk over simplifying, but in order to get your life going in the direction you would like you to be going, you first have to get your thoughts going in that direction that you would like to be going. And in order to replace the thoughts you have, you must allow new thoughts to come in to take their place.

When you relax and meditate you allow some of the chatter that fills your head to fall away. Create a space for yourself where you can relax and breathe that is removed from influences like TV and other distractions, and allow yourself to fall back into the ocean of thought that precedes your world. There you can relax and allow your Spirit to organize your thoughts for you. We invite you to meditate often.



It's a bit of a paradox when you have too many thoughts in your head, to go to a place where there are even more—many more. But it's the same reason you can go for a swim in the ocean, but not in the swift shallow stream: the one is deep and calm, and the other tightly narrow and busy. The confusion that you have from your thoughts is almost always a result of having too few; not enough options to choose from. When you immerse yourself in the ocean of imagination, then your answers will come. You are here to expand, not to restrict your thoughts.
Blessings on your journeys,

Twelve
www.TwelveSpirit.net

Divine Love is a Rising Up of the Soul ...

Subodh Kumar Misra:
Whenever we love something in this world, it is with an ulterior motive. We want to achieve something out of it, so the love is not an end in itself. It is the means to the achievement of something else and, therefore, we cannot understand the nature of that love, which is a law unto itself. Divine love is not an emotion nor merely a psychological function. It is not the mind thinking of something, or feeling in respect of an external object. It is a rising up of the soul towards a higher condition of itself. …………….Aum

For A Sparkling Divine Day -

Gratitude places you in the energy field of plentitude.
Perceiving life in a consciousness of gratitude is
literally stepping into another dimension of living.
Suddenly the seeming ordinariness of your days
takes on a divine sparkle.
Michael Beckwith
(Great Minister I had the privilege of listening to
at his Awesome Agape Church in L. A. - Best Chorus
I have ever heard too!)

A Sparkling Divine Night followed yesterday's Sparkling Divine Day as
the winter constellations were bright in the dark moonless sky over the
Ocean. The centerpiece was Orion, the gigantic humter with its belt pointing
upward to the equally large Taurus with the red eye of Aldeboran, the Seven
Sisters on it's shoulder. The belt pointed downwards to Sirious the brightest
star in the sky and also the head of Canis Major the Dog constellation standing
on its hindleg as if trying to get the attention of Orion. Looking upward was
Procyon the "Puppy" Canis Minor, who was close to the Gemini twins Castor &
Pollux. As I walked North the magnificent Big Dipper pointed to the North Star,
which helped creat the Little Dipper. I was so grateful to be out on such
a "Sparkling Divine Night".
Gratitude places you in the energy field of plentitude.
Perceiving life in a consciousness of gratitude is
literally stepping into another dimension of living.
Suddenly the seeming ordinariness of your days
takes on a divine sparkle.
Michael Beckwith

Individualized Expression of the Spirit

I am that which I am; an individualized expression
of the Spirit of God projecting LOVE into my world. Peace.
~Dean A. Banks, D.D.

When love of SELF becomes more important than love of self is the moment we begin fulfilling our Divine purpose perfectly. ~Dean A. Banks, D.D.

Quick-witted? Slow Down to Get Sharper -witted

The universe is full of magical things
patiently waiting for our wits to grow sharper.
Eden Phillpotts

Quick witted sarcastic retorts keep the brain too busy to observe the magic
of the universe. Children usually have slow wits, however they have sharper
observation powers.
Try slowing your thoughts and forget the "quick-witted response". "Come as a
child again to enter the gates of heaven." A practice of meditation helps to
slow down and become mindful being more completely in the moment slowing down
the quick-witted response and making your sense of observation more keen!
Go slow I& grow, ron
Some quick sarcastic quips for those of you who want to hurt someone: You were looking good from afar.. now you're far from looking good.
Learn from your parents' mistakes, use birth control!
The universe is laughing behind your back.
Those of you who think you know everything are annoying those of us who do.


Pamela Pollard Arrington:
How about if you stop and think how would you feel if someone said that to you? By that time, you will have decided to keep it to yourself and nobody's feelings are hurt. There is no need to cause unnecessary pain to someone over something said. Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words...will laugh a lifetime and rattle inside my head like a long lost soul. Words said in haste can ruin one for a lifetime. Forgive already! Spread kindness...
Ron Alexander: ‎Pamela Pollard Arrington, thanks. I wanted others to see exactly that...is example of why we need to slow down and not use "quick-wit" but develop slow wits to be like "children to enter the gates of heaven." Read the original comment! You are so right - Words said in haste can ruin one for a lifetime. Forgive already! Spread kindness..." I am so appreciative of your response!

Ra Divakar:
I think this is important post, because I used to think that the quicker & funnier the answer or quip I had, would impress others with my intelligence, however, what I see is that many times it comes out sarcastic (cutting meat in Latin) that was hurtful. So now I am working on slowing down, with a more gentle response, rather than defensive reaction.

Lydia Porter: We all can do 0 to bitch in less than 10, it is only those who seek to grow and improve themselves who learn 0 to thoughtfulness .It isn't how fast you get there that is important , it is where you are going that makes a difference.

Pamela Pollard Arrington; My mother said things to me that have stayed with me forever. Words hurt. Thanks for the kind words Ron. Spread peace, love and harmony!

William McElveen: Thanks Ron Alexander for the "emotional wack" with a stick. This is turning out to be an important one for me. I was soooo in need of hearing this. Sloooowwwing down my sarcastic "violent" maya running "monkey" mind. My humor laden violent comments to so many have gone on for so long. Being a buzzing gadfly. Thanks for squashing that buzzzzer. I can literally feel my mind quieting and slowing down now after reading this several hours ago. In proverbs of the O.T. it says that a rebuke enters into and profits a wise man more than a thousand stripes on the back of a fool. I hope to be as a wise man. Never heard KISS either with a Sweetheart or Spirit before but I have now and I pledge to myself to use it from now on. Being kinder in Spirit and in fact. Thanks to the others also for ur comments. I was touched by them all. Today I have grown in quietness and enlightenment:)

Epiphany Illustrated

Nothing ever becomes real till it is experienced -
even a proverb is not a proverb till your
life has illustrated it.
John Keats


Make peace with the universe.Take joy in it.
It will turn to gold.
Resurrection will be now.
Every moment,
a new beauty.
Rumi

Post about Celibacy and Prayer Asking for Forgiveness

Ron Alexander: ‎Bunni Vaughan Healy:"This post is not about oneness. You don't need to talk about "her" like this. You can choose to, obviously, but you could just as easily state your view on celibacy without mentioning her. There is unkindness in this post."
Ron Alexander: Above, Bunni Vaughan Healy is right and I say to "her" (the woman I talked about in the post) - I am sorry, please forgive me, thank you (for I know you will). I love you. Thank you Bunni for being courageous enough to point this out. And I am grateful to "her" for givng me space to work this out within myself for we are All One!

The Huna Process of Ho'oponopono: "I am sorry, please forgive me, thank you (for I know you will). I love you!"
www.ancienthuna.com/​ho-oponopono.htm
Ho'oponopono means to make right. Essentially, it means to make it right with the ancestors, or to make right with the people with whom you have relationships



Pamela Pollard Arrington I think when you have previously had a relationship but you have changed and they have not, there is expected to be some hurt and confusion. That's usually why people get divorced by the way! We all go through periods of change and I believe that is good. I have also been celibate for several years because I need to work on me. Most of my life has been doing what was expected, taking care of my child, going to work or college --anything but what I needed. Now I have a job traveling and working in hospitals. I have met many people but don't stay long enough to develop a romantic interest in anyone. Instead I have maintained some friendships but everyone I have met has enriched me in some way far beyond what any physical relationship can give you. Isn't that what separates us from other animals?
Ron Alexander: thanks Pamela Pollard Arrington, for your thoughtful long reply, and I also agree that I could have written about celibacy in a more thoughtful way, without "blaming her" in any way.
Pamela Pollard Arrington: True Ron Alexander but I didn't feel you were blaming -just speaking from the heart. Peace to you and to "her". Time will work things out.
Ron Alexander: thanks again Pamela - you are very supportive and I appreciate it!


My continuing passion is to part a curtain, that invisible veil of indifference that falls between us and that blinds us to each other's presence, each other's wonder, each other's human plight.
Eudora Welty

I Celebrate Being Celibate

I am not in a sexual relationship, and I am not interested in being in one, maybe ever. I really enjoy close friends and community, and being 67, I only want heaven (on earth). My testorone level is low and I am grateful for it. I feel finished with sex, and have not had any in quite a while, plus I have not slept with anyone in a while.
So please see anything I write on facebook or in person, as my attempt to be supportive and inspirational and not a come-on! It has come to my attention that one person (who is now blocked) has sent out and even blocked other people in attempt to think that she is the one in my life, and I am sorry about that. She has been in the past, and still lives with me parttime, but I am not interested in her, as well as anybody, for a romantic partnership. For some delusional reason she remains in denial about the change! I am only interested in the Divine Oneness that we All share, and supportive, inspirational friendships in that Regard!


I respect your principaled decision and bless you Ron...Travis

Beata Bohac: There is a season for everything in life, dear Ron.

I look at sex as I do at investments: The older I get the less drama & risk I'm prepared to take.
Ron Alexander: I am very grateful for your support Travis E. Duke & Beata Bohac - love -"I look at sex as I do at investments: The older I get the less drama & risk I'm prepared to take."
Oh yes - add - lady is a housemate part-time - not a "roommate" - big difference!

When one door closes it brings your attention to All the other doors that await...Shine on and have no regrets I say. Sex is in the moment a wonderful thing however when it is no longer desired or needed it can be cast aside. I do understand exactly what your saying Dear Ron. Much love sent always. ♥
Ron Alexander: Thanks for your support and inspiration Angela Martin Diggs! Especially for having "no regrets" - working on that!

Gene Yakub: Sathya Sai Baba advises to cease having sex after 60 so as to give oneself the chance to learn to detach from pleasure of the senses before passing on. So good for you, Ron!

William Mcelveen: Excellent post friend from a good man. I sometimes sense the same for me. Even more so as time takes it's toll. A saying I heard recently that stuck me like your picture button......I'm looking for soul mates not a cell mate.
Ron Alexander: Thanks Gene Yakub & William Mcelveen - I still enjoy my physical senses but not from sex. I enjoy movement, massage, touch, seeing, hearing, smelling, et al. "Soul mates not a cell mate"! - lol!


Bunni Vaughan Healy
I almost refrained from commenting on this but my ego decided to have a chat with your ego.

This post is not about oneness. You don't need to talk about "her" like this. You can choose to, obviously, but you could just as easily state your view on celibacy without mentioning her. There is unkindness in this post. I will not debate it with you I just want you to know that I see it and so do others who you will notice will not comment on this (or like it). Enjoying oneness with "some friends" while reporting on the "wrongness" of another is not the high road and is not oneness. I take issue with you on this only because I know you want enlightenment and this is not the way to it. You can do better than this. I expect more from you which is why I decided that I could post this. (Not that you ever have to meet my expectations but I find for myself that those who expect a lot from me keep me help me stay on the high road delivering a lot...and that's who I want to be.)
Ron Alexander; Thanks for your comments Bunni Vaughan Healy, and I will take them into my heart, because I know they are from yours...


Ron Alexander: ‎Bunni Vaughan Healy:"This post is not about oneness. You don't need to talk about "her" like this. You can choose to, obviously, but you could just as easily state your view on celibacy without mentioning her. There is unkindness in this post."
Ron Alexander: Above, Bunni Vaughan Healy is right and I say to "her" (the woman I talked about in the post) - I am sorry, please forgive me, thank you (for I know you will). I love you. Thank you Bunni for being courageous enough to point this out. And I am grateful to "her" for givng me space to work this out within myself for we are All One!

The Huna Process of Ho'oponopono: "I am sorry, please forgive me, thank you (for I know you will). I love you!"
www.ancienthuna.com/​ho-oponopono.htm
Ho'oponopono means to make right. Essentially, it means to make it right with the ancestors, or to make right with the people with whom you have relationships

The Huna Process of Ho'oponopono
www.ancienthuna.com

This description is by no means a complete training in how to do Ho'oponopono. While appropriate to do for yourself, for yours and others safety, it should not be done with someone else without training.

Need Do Nothing - Reeelaaax!

Most men (humans) lead lives of quiet desperation. Thoreau

"Need Do Nothing" is one of my fav. quotes from A Course in Miracle.
Relax, be patient, and allow your Beingness to lead the way. Be a
Human Being more than a human "doing"!

Who is it that can make muddy water clear? No one.
But left to stand, it will gradually clear of itself.
Lao-Tzu
Tao Te Ching (gratefulness.org)


Glad to read "to the best of your ability."

I need to add for myself - "take it easy, don't worry, be happy, I (Higher Power) will take care of you."

Beauty - Do Anything to See...

I’d do anything to gaze at a full moon in the night sky Sometimes I’ll see a shooting star, And try to gaze from afar, All the diamonds in the night sky; I’d do anything to see All the beautiful things in the world, A breathtaking fantasy...... Not alone my love but with YOU. Moony(MNA)

Cup half-empty, half full or Overflowing?

The important thing is not to think much, but to love much; and so, do that which best stirs you to love.
Saint Teresa of Avila
Ron Alexander: That quote above is from gratefulness.org and thought it went well with "cup overflowing" - "stirring" up the love over the edge of the cup!

Compassion for others begins with kindness to ourselves

We are all in this together. So when you realize that you're talking to yourself, label it "thinking" and notice your tone of voice. Let it be compassionate and gentle and humorous. Then you'll be changing old stuck patterns that are shared by the whole human race. Compassion for others begins with kindness to ourselves. ~ Pema Chödrön






Let your light shine...

Accept Your Heritage of Happiness

Accept your Heritage of Happiness
Buddha repeatedly stated "May All Being be Happy & Free(of suffering)." Boddhisattvas chose to stay on the earth plane to help others become free of suffering.
In the Bible - "Thou will show me the path of life: in thy presence is fullness of joy; at thy right hand are pleasures forevermore!" Psalms 16:11

What is Most Precious Today?

In being with dying,
we arrive at a natural
crucible of what it means
to love and be loved.
And we can ask ourselves this:
Knowing that death is inevitable,
what is most precious today?
Roshi Joan Halifax
Interview with Wild River Review

Knowing that I cannot be seperated from Love Eternal.
The "Love" that many call "God", and Whose other
Names are Joy, Peace & Light.

Love Yourself into Well Being

You can't punish yourself into change,nor whip yourself into shape, but you can love yourself into well-being. (thanks to Ida Rose)


Bunni Vaughan Healy:
I think this is a most important truth. People are most often too hard on themselves and too unforgiving. We are just people trying to do the best we can. We have way too much "law & order" and "crime and punishment" mentality. It's as if we'll go off on a killing spree if we don't keep ourselves in check. It ain't gonna happen folks. Chalk up all the mistakes to experience...this is school, that was your lesson... then move on knowing you're trying and you'll probably do better with more practice!! Love you Ron.

Laughter is the Best Medicine

Laughing is the shortest distance between two people.
Victor Borge(gratefulness.org)

Just make sure you are laughing together. lol,ron

Great Mystery

The world as pure object is something that is not there.
It is not a reality outside us for which we exist....
It is a living and self-creating mystery of which
I am myself a part, to which I am myself, my own unique door.
Thomas Merton
Contemplation in a World of Action