“I believe that unarmed truth and unconditional love will have the final word in reality. This is why right, temporarily defeated, is stronger than evil triumphant.” Rev. ML King Jr.
We are candles burning, sometimes sputtering, sometimes steady, with the same task as the stars in their majesty making light.
ELIAS AMIDON
Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.
Rev. M.L. King Jr.
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Blessing must arise from within your own mind. It is not something that comes from outside. When the positive qualities of your mind increase and the negativities decrease, that is what blessing means. The Tibetan word for blessing … means transforming into magnificent potential. Therefore, blessing refers to the development of virtuous qualities you did not previously have and the improvement of those good qualities you have already developed. ― Dalai Lama XIV
Sunday, May 31, 2020
We have same task as the stars in their majesty making light.
We are candles burning, sometimes sputtering, sometimes steady, with the same task as the stars in their majesty making light.
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ELIAS AMIDON
Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that. Rev. M.L. King Jr. |
Saturday, May 30, 2020
20 years old Trevor must have been born an "old soul" to have this much wisdom?
I’m siding with my brothers that deal, and continuously deal, with things I will never experience. The injustice is clear.. and so is the hate. It can no longer be explained away. If you’re still “explaining” it - check your heart and ask why.
Friday, May 29, 2020
Through taking? Serve for the joy of it...
Service doesn’t start when we have something to give — it blossoms naturally when we have nothing
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Locked down, quarantined, too poor to travel far?
When you can’t go far, you go deep.
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BR. DAVID STEINDL-RAST
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Wednesday, May 27, 2020
Tuesday, May 26, 2020
17 QUOTES BY KATIE (Cleaned up)
These 17 quotes from Byron Katie’s new book, A Mind At Home With Itself, have challenged my difficult thoughts in the best possible way. Reading this book inspired me to let go of painful thoughts that have kept me in a cycle of grief and anger for months.
(Welcome to my island of sanity and serenity. I'm Sandra Pawula - writer, mindfulness teacher and advocate of ease. I help deep thinking, heart-centered spirits find greater ease — emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Curious? Read On!)
(Welcome to my island of sanity and serenity. I'm Sandra Pawula - writer, mindfulness teacher and advocate of ease. I help deep thinking, heart-centered spirits find greater ease — emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Curious? Read On!)
But “I” didn’t have to let go. The books seemed to contain a magic that released the thoughts for me. Or, deeply inspired, maybe I momentarily let go of the “I” that had been clinging to this particular pain for too long. In its place, I found joy.
A Mind At Home With Itself is Byron Katie’s commentary on the "Diamond Sutra," one of the great spiritual texts of all time. This sutra addresses the idea of “no-self,” a fundamental principle in Buddhism. This mind-boggling idea is contrary to the conditioning we receive in the West, which encourages us to solidify the sense of “I” through competition, success, and consumerism.
In this commentary, Katie makes the shocking idea of “no-self” a bit more user friendly. And, she provides a method, called “The Work,” to help you actualize the experience of living without a solidified sense of self.
Here’s the truth, you can’t find true happiness as long as you cling to your thoughts, emotions, or sense of a solidified self. So although you may have no reference point for some of the ideas in these quotes, keep an open mind. Katie provides a clear path to help you break through your emotional pain. And isn’t that what we all want?
Who Is Byron Katie?
Who is Byron Katie? Katie was leading an ordinary life that included marriage, children, and a career, when she plunged into a 10-year long downward spiral, that involved depression, agoraphobia, self-hatred, and suicidal wishes.
These 17 quotes from Byron Katie’s new book, A Mind At Home With Itself, have challenged my difficult thoughts in the best possible way. Reading this book inspired me to let go of painful thoughts that have kept me in a cycle of grief and anger for months.
But “I” didn’t have to let go. The books seemed to contain a magic that released the thoughts for me. Or, deeply inspired, maybe I momentarily let go of the “I” that had been clinging to this particular pain for too long. In its place, I found joy.
A Mind At Home With Itself is Byron Katie’s commentary on the "Diamond Sutra," one of the great spiritual texts of all time. This sutra addresses the idea of “no-self,” a fundamental principle in Buddhism. This mind-boggling idea is contrary to the conditioning we receive in the West, which encourages us to solidify the sense of “I” through competition, success, and consumerism.
In this commentary, Katie makes the shocking idea of “no-self” a bit more user friendly. And, she provides a method, called “The Work,” to help you actualize the experience of living without a solidified sense of self.
Here’s the truth, you can’t find true happiness as long as you cling to your thoughts, emotions, or sense of a solidified self. So although you may have no reference point for some of the ideas in these quotes, keep an open mind. Katie provides a clear path to help you break through your emotional pain. And isn’t that what we all want?
Who Is Byron Katie?
Who is Byron Katie? Katie was leading an ordinary life that included marriage, children, and a career, when she plunged into a 10-year long downward spiral, that involved depression, agoraphobia, self-hatred, and suicidal wishes.
One day, she suddenly “woke up.” Her depression and fear had dissolved along with all the thoughts that had tortured her. The four questions that constitute The Work were born in that moment. From thence forth, she felt only joy.
She vigorously did The Work herself for the next year. Soon after, she began sharing The Work with others. For the past 31 years, she has lived her life in service, devoting herself to to helping others end their suffering.
17 Byron Katie Quotes to Help You Let Go of Emotional Pain
Now onto these 17 powerful Katie quotes and a glimpse of The Work.
I’ve embodied the four questions that comprise The Work below, within my comments on the quotes. There are really more than 17 quotes because I sometimes clustered a series of quotes on the same topic together.
1. On Stressful Thoughts
Let's begin by looking at how stress clues you into being off track.
If I can teach you anything, it is to identify the stressful thoughts that you’re believing and to question them, to get still enough so that you can hear your own answers. Stress is the gift that alerts you to your asleepness. Feelings like anger or sadness exist only to alert you to the fact that you’re believing your own stories.
This is the core of The Work: to question your stressful thoughts. Because, when you believe your stressful thoughts - actually any thoughts – you suffer, in one way or another, sooner or later.
- The first question in The Work then is: “Is it true?” Is your thought true? The answer is a “yes” or “no.”
- And the second question: "Can you absolutely know that it’s true?" The answer again is a “yes” or “no.”
Approach this process of inquiry as a meditation. When you ask one of the four questions, go into yourself, recall the situation that gives rise to the question, feel into it, and get an internal sense of the answer. If you only do the work on an intellectual level, it won’t take you far.2. Question Your Thoughts
As we do The Work, not only do we remain alert to our stressful thoughts—the ones that cause all the anger, sadness, and frustration in the world—but we question them, and through that questioning the thoughts lose their power over us.Once the thoughts lose their power over you, you find peace and joy in their place. But peace or joy will probably be a momentary experience - lasting anywhere for a few minutes to a few days - because another stressful thought will arise. So you do the work again.- The Work is a practice. You have to keep questioning your thoughts again and again. As you do, the stockpile of stressful thoughts and painful emotions gradually diminishes. Joy and peace increase.
3. How Stressful Thoughts Impact You
As we question a stressful thought, we see for ourselves that it’s untrue; we get to look at the cause and effect of it, to observe in sobering detail exactly what modes of pain and confusion result from believing it; then we get a glimpse into the empty mirror, the world beyond our story of the world, and see what our life would be like without the thought; and finally we get to experience the opposite of what we have so firmly believed and to find specific examples of how these opposites are true. Once we deeply question a thought, it loses its power to make us suffer, and eventually it ceases even to arise.Now, you explore, in detail, the impact a stressful thought has on you with the subsequent questions of The Work.- The third question: "How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought?"
- The fourth question: "Who would you be without the thought?" And then turnaround the thought to see how its opposite is true for you.
As you react less to your thoughts and emotions, you gradually burn away your karma. You slowly erase your unhelpful emotional patterns and unveil more serenity, more joy.4. On Selflessness
You are who you believe you are. Other people are, for you, who you believe they are: they can be nothing more than that. If you realized that the mind is one, that everyone and everything is your own projection (including you), you would understand that it’s only yourself you’re ever dealing with. You would end up loving yourself, loving every thought you think. When you love every thought, you love everything thoughts create, you love the whole world you have created. At first, the love that overflows in you seems to be about connection with other people, and it’s wonderful to feel intimately connected to every human being you meet. But then it becomes about mind connected to itself, and only that. The ultimate love is the mind’s love of itself. Mind joins with mind—all of mind, without division or separation, all of it loved. Ultimately I am all I can know, and what I come to know is that there is no such thing as ‘I.’- This idea challenges our notion of reality as well as the idea of the self. It points to what’s called “selflessness” in Buddhism, which includes the absence of a
- If that sounds too incredible to believe, just know that you slowly can come to understand this idea - on a visceral level - through The Work. You don’t have to understand this idea - on a visceral level - through The Work. You don’t have to understand it right away. Just set aside your doubt or skepticism for now and give The Work a try. See for yourself if it helps you.
This quote also says everything you believe about anyone or anything is a construction of your own mind. It’s not an accurate representation of anything outside of yourself.For example, observers often remember a crime or an accident in radically different ways. Or you abhor someone that another person loves dearly. There is no objective reality. You are always and ever only relating to a projection of your own mind. Therefore, you can alter the world, as you perceive it, by altering your mind.5. On Integrity
And…Every no I say is a yes to myself. It feels right to me. People don’t have to guess what I want and don’t want, and I don’t need to pretend. When you’re honest about your yeses and noes, it’s easy to live a kind life.If everything is a projection of your mind, then how do you relate in everyday reality?Katie doesn’t address this often in A Mind At Home With Itself. But her discussion of boundaries offers one clear example. She doesn’t like the word “boundary” because it implies limitation or contraction. But she encourages you to be clear about your yeses and noes.Katie says the greatest gift you can given to another is your truth. This is called “integrity.”She knows that your truth will change, especially as you do The Work. But to be in integrity means to be true to yourself as you are in this moment. No pretending to be anyone other than who you are. Honor what’s true for you in this moment:There aren’t any truths. There’s just the thing that is true for you in the moment, and if you investigated that, you would lose it too. But honoring the thing that’s true for you in the moment is simply a matter of keeping to your own integrity.Listen to your inner wisdom and honor what is true for you?
6. What Happens When You Believe Your Thoughts?
I discovered that when I believe my thoughts, I suffered, but that when I didn’t believe them, I didn’t suffer, and that this is true for every human being.The point isn’t to believe Byron Katie, but to find out for yourself. Try questioning your thoughts and see if it lessens your suffering.7. What Is Empathy?
Some people think that empathy means feeling another person’s pain. But it’s not possible to feel another person’s pain. What happens is that people project what someone’s pain must feel like and then react to their own projection. This kind of empathy is unnecessary for compassionate action; it actually gets in the way. Empathy, in my experience, has nothing to do with imagining pain.We can feel empathy for others. Research on mirror neurons shows that empathy is a built-in function for the vast majority of people. But can we ever truly feel another’s pain or are we just feeling our own idea of their pain mixed with our own experiences?What would compassionate action look like without projection? That’s something to ponder.8. Suffering About Suffering
That is not to say that the Buddha is passive or that he condones unkindness. He is the essence of kindness, and he does everything he can to end the apparent suffering in the world. But his kindness arises out of the deepest sense of peace with whatever he perceives. If you see anything in the world as unacceptable, you can be certain that you mind is confused. If you think that anything is outside your own mind, that’s delusion.I don’t believe, as Katie suggests, that nothing external exists. That’s a historical debate in Buddhism as well. But I agree, whatever we perceive is a projection of our mind.The question here is this: Can you come from a place of peace when you encounter suffering? Does it help to add your suffering about suffering when you meet suffering?By questioning the belief that these things shouldn’t happen, you can end your own suffering about the suffering of others. And once you do, you’ll be able to notice that this makes you a kinder human being, someone who is motivated by love rather than outrage or sadness. The end of suffering in the world begins with the end of suffering in you.It’s not a question of whether these things should or should not happen. They have. So how do you then meet suffering?9. A Different Way to Accomplish
A past or future isn’t necessary to get things accomplished. I just do what’s in front of me, whatever appears in the moment. I watch and witness: I remain as awareness; I continue to expand without past or future, going nowhere, behind the limits of speed.Could you imagine living without goals? Would you consider it a worthwhile experiment to try?10. On Alignment
If your thoughts are opposed to love, you’ll feel stress, and that stress will let you know that you’ve drifted away from what you fundamentally are. If you feel balance and joy, that tells you that your thinking is more in keeping with your true identity, which is beyond identity.So simple, right? You don’t need to ask anyone else. You are your own measuring stick.
On SPACE enough for a moment of inquiry:
Victor Frankl states it eloquently, he is a Psychiatrist andPosted: May 24, 2020 1:58 PM |
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holocaust survivor. His book is MAN'S SEARCH FOR MEANING "Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power. To choose our response. In our response lies Our growth and freedom." In other words, the stimulus is always neutral, we make our choice within, and that is free will. Do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy? |
Meditation helps you spend more time in that silent "space" between stimulus and response.
AcceptDANCE - Being a lover of what is...
Acceptance is the universal currency of real friendship... It does not warp or shape or wrench a person to be anything other than what they are.
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Monday, May 25, 2020
Take a stand on behalf of what we value...
The more that we allow our hearts to expand to love, deeply appreciate, and feel inextricably tied to the places, things and people of this world, the more we are likely to take a stand on behalf of what we value.
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KRISTI NELSON
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Sunday, May 24, 2020
Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of Meaning (True happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue from the pursuit of meaning)
The concept of happiness has evolved significantly since 1776 when this phrase was first introduced. Now we often relate the thought of happiness with living “the good life,” a concept that has been hijacked by advertisers and portrayed as a life in which we seek pleasure, relaxation, and, of course, material goods. Our post-modern society has told us that we can achieve happiness through consumption. Society has made us think that: if only ... if only I had a bigger house, a better car, more money, and a better job, I would be fulfilled.
But more choices and more personal freedom to choose have led to higher expectations that, in turn, have led to never being satisfied with what we have! We think we want more, but when we get it, it is not enough. We still want more. “Enough” becomes a moving target. And we spend so much time working to pay for things we don’t really want, let alone need. In the pursuit of the “if only,” we have sacrificed our relationships, our health, and our sanity.
- COMMENT"Life, Liberty and the pursuit of HappinessMost Americans are familiar with these words, even if they don’t know that they are contained in the introduction to the Declaration of Independence, the statement announcing that, in 1776, the 13 American colonies were now independent and no longer under British rule. The full phrase contains the following words: “We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.” These powerful words and the concepts behind them helped to establish a platform for democracy in the United States of America and elsewhere in the world.
We’ve also been taught that we should expect to have it all and we should expect to have it now. In other words, we are driven by instant gratification—and justify it with thoughts like, “just put it on credit,” “there’s no need to earn the money today,” “pay for it later.” Not just individuals but cities, states, and nations have embraced and become addicted to this belief as well.
Even the relentless pursuit of pleasure and power has shown itself to be short-lived because pleasure and power are founded on the same “if only I had more” logic. Left unchecked, these motivational forces comprise a vicious cycle and manifest themselves as an endless—and joyless—undertaking much like that experienced by the Greek hero Sisyphus, who was ordered by the gods to push for eternity a big rock uphill only to see it slip out of his hands in the very last moment and roll down the hill once more.
- COMMENT"Life, Liberty and the pursuit of HappinessMost Americans are familiar with these words, even if they don’t know that they are contained in the introduction to the Declaration of Independence, the statement announcing that, in 1776, the 13 American colonies were now independent and no longer under British rule. The full phrase contains the following words: “We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.” These powerful words and the concepts behind them helped to establish a platform for democracy in the United States of America and elsewhere in the
- COMMENT"Life, Liberty and the pursuit of HappinessMost Americans are familiar with these words, even if they don’t know that they are contained in the introduction to the Declaration of Independence, the statement announcing that, in 1776, the 13 American colonies were now independent and no longer under British rule. The full phrase contains the following words: “We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.” These powerful words and the concepts behind them helped to establish a platform for democracy in the United States of America and elsewhere in the worlWe’ve also been taught that we should expect to have it all and we should expect to have it now. In other words, we are driven by instant gratification—and justify it with thoughts like, “just put it on credit,” “there’s no need to earn the money today,” “pay for it later.” Not just individuals but cities, states, and nations have embraced and become addicted to this belief as well.
- COMMENT"Life, Liberty and the pursuit of HappinessMost Americans are familiar with these words, even if they don’t know that they are contained in the introduction to the Declaration of Independence, the statement announcing that, in 1776, the 13 American colonies were now independent and no longer under British rule. The full phrase contains the following words: “We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.” These powerful words and the concepts behind them helped to establish a platform for democracy in the United States of America and elsewhere in the world.
Life is about the pursuit of meaning, which is the primary intrinsic motivation of human beings. Following the ageless wisdom of the ancient Greek philosophers, the good or meaningful life involves the quest for two things: evdemonia, literally meaning “good spirits” but really referring to a deep sense of well-being, inner prosperity, fulfillment, and the best possible condition of being alive1, and logos, translated most frequently, but only loosely, in English today as reason, logic, the word, or, “the meaning.” Importantly, the latter word also has deep spiritual roots, dating back to the pre-Socratic philosophers, which add significantly to its value as a condition for understanding the human quest for meaning.2
All life experiences, both in good times and in challenging times, contribute to our personal sense of evdemonia, whereas only our pleasurable or good experiences contribute to our state of happiness. Viewed through the lens of contemporary western culture, happiness as a state of being has taken on a “hedonistic” quality, much like what has been described earlier in this article. By contrast, authentic happiness in large part is a manifestation of evdemonia, carrying with it deeper meaning, and as such is driven by intrinsic rather than extrinsic motivations.
The Greek concept of logos, moreover, has found its way into popular culture in a number of meaningful ways. Since ancient times, for instance, it has been associated with various spiritual matters, influencing such fields of human inquiry and development as philosophy, theology, and religion.3 It also is a root word of dialogue, a powerful and very meaningful communication process that, more often than not, is much easier said than done. Even though it is common practice to call many different interpersonal communication strategies and techniques as being forms of “dialogue,” in most cases they are not really the same thing.4
In light of the documented references to the origins of logos as “spirit,” the process of authentic dialogue involves more than collective thinking and understanding, although it certainly is a determinant of such a holistic process. Spirit flowing through the participants in true dialogue leads to collective thinking which, in turn, facilitates a common understanding thereby resulting in what we refer to as collective learning. Authentic dialogue, which transcends the Socratic Method per se, enables individuals to acknowledge that they each are part of a greater whole, that they naturally resonate with others within this whole, and that the whole is, indeed, greater than the sum of its various parts.5Dialogic communication, of course, is a popular problem solving and opportunity finding methodology in a wide variety of fields, including psychology. Most practitioners of this approach, however, are unaware of its spiritual underpinnings and restrict their understanding of the logos to the cognitive realm, that is, as being concerned with reason, logic, and meaning. One exception to this way of thinking was the world-renowned psychiatrist and existential philosopher, Viktor E. Frankl, M.D., Ph.D.
A true pioneer of meaning, Dr. Frankl understood the deeper, spiritual interpretation and implications of the common Greek word, logos, when he developed his meaning-centric system of psychotherapy called Logotherapy, known as the “Third Viennese School of Psychotherapy” (the predecessors being the Freudian and Adlerian Schools):
“A psychotherapy which not only recognizes man’s spirit, but actually starts from it may be termed logotherapy. In this connection, logos is intended to signify ‘the spiritual,’ and beyond that, ‘the meaning.’”6
In what he referred to as his “medical ministry,” Frankl, in effect, sought not only to humanize the practice of medicine and, in particular, psychotherapy, but also to spiritualize it.Likewise, Viktor Frankl was a very much concerned about the balance between freedom and responsibility. He warned that freedom threatens to degenerate into mere license and arbitrariness unless it is lived in terms of responsibleness. Although he enjoyed his time in America and admired much about it, Frankl was not shy about criticizing the popular understanding of some cherished American values, such as the notion of freedom. He took exception, for instance, to what appeared to be a commonly accepted view of equating freedom with a license to do virtually anything one wants. To Frankl, freedom without responsibility was an oxymoron.
In many ways, Viktor Frankl’s perspective on what constitutes real freedom (or “liberty” as referred to in the Declaration of Independence) can be traced back to the ageless wisdom of Aristotle and the notion of evdemonia. Living the good life, i.e., the meaningful life, demands that we look beyond ourselves and, importantly, hold ourselves—both individually and collectively—responsible for a greater good. For this reason, Frankl famously espoused that happiness cannot be pursued; instead, “it must ensue and it only does so as the unintended side-effect of one’s dedication to a cause greater than oneself or as the by-product of one’s surrender to a person other than oneself.”7 (Emphasis added) True happiness, therefore, is a by-product of the search for meaning; paradoxically, it is neither an objective nor an end in and of itself.
Perhaps the founders involved in drafting the Declaration of Independence had these deeper concepts in mind when they wrote the words, “Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.” More than likely, they weren’t referring to what we now refer to as hedonistic happiness, a fleeting emotion and moving target, dictated by things, events, or other people, all external to ourselves. Instead, they most likely had in mind the deeper concept of meaning, combining the pursuit of evdemonia and logos, like that espoused by the ancient Greek philosophers and psychiatrist Viktor Frankl, as the ultimate purpose or end goal of life.
References
1. The Greek word, εὐδαιμονία, is sometimes anglicized as eudaimonia, eudaemonia, or eudemonia even though these forms of the word are phonetically incorrect. More importantly, its interpretation has been closely associated with the emergence of the field of positive psychology and, by extension, the study of “happiness” in postmodern culture. For a detailed explanation of this important concept, see Pattakos, A. & Dundon, E. (2015). The OPA! Way: Finding Joy & Meaning in Everyday Life & Work. Dallas, TX: BenBella Books, Chapter 8, “Engage with Evdemonia.”
2. See Pattakos, A. & Dundon, E. (2017). Prisoners of Our Thoughts: Viktor Frankl’s Principles for Discovering Meaning in Life and Work. Oakland, CA: Berrett-Koeher Publishers, pp. 15-17
3. For example, the Greek word “logos” (λόγος) is explored from the perspective of the pre-Socratic philosopher Heraclitus in Brann, Eva (2011). The Logos of Heraclitus: The First Philosopher of the West on its Most Interesting Term, Philadelphia: Paul Dry Books. Its spiritual underpinnings are examined further in Winston, David (1985). Logos and Mystical Theology in Philo of Alexandria. Cincinnati: Hebrew Union College Press. Its religious implications receive attention in Armstrong, Karen (1993). A History of God: The 4,000-Year Quest of Judaism, Christianity and Islam. New York: Ballantine Books.
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