Not Desire, Wanting or Needing just Simply Accepting

Acceptance is the universal currency of real friendship. . . .It does not warp or shape or wrench a person to be anything other than what they are.

Joan Chittister
The Friendship of Women(gratefulness.org)

I am learning in Loving Kindness Meditation that with equanimity that deeply loving compassion does not include desiring, wanting or needing someone, as that is the source of suffering. And it means we do not accept the "desired" person as they are.
Or if needy, one is not accepting themselves! Ron Alexander